Live Your Lives

Lately two Hindi movies have caught my attention; Rock On!! and 3Idiots(Inspired from five point someone).The reason behind is that both the movies had characters who wanted to do something in life and ended up doing something else which their family wanted them to do. But they finds out their actual goal of life and starts pursuing their goals. That was something new to me someone who grew up in an orthodox society at Kerala in the Southern tip of India. There society or family tells you what you should do. Options are limited. There is no go back. Doctor, Nurse, Engineer or Govt. Service. Exceptional case is jobs at “Gelf” ( what they call middle east countries) .These jobs have acceptance and respect. For others, society watches them either with sympathy or ridicule. So many times I had faced a question “O.K. Your brother in law is a cartoonist. What he does for a living?”. Means they don't consider cartoning as a serious profession. I myself had envied my cousin who does Salsa dancing and Theater along with her studies with full heart. In my academic days doing anything other than the studies of course material is a Taboo. You are allowed till high school to dance or paint or play cricket. After that it is strictly No No.
The immediate trigger for writing this article is the meeting with my close friend .We used to be best buddies during our college days. In our Engineering College he had lots of fans, especially the ones from other gender, because of his talent in dancing. Once he gets on the floor he would be like a wooden house on fire. Every moment he enjoyed. But as the time passed on he kept aside his passion and now leading life with a water treatment company. I doubt if he can dance for even five minutes now.In my immediate friends circle itself there is only a few people who actually chased their dreams; an MCA graduate who took career in singing, an Architect who started a new career as a film actor……

What happened to others including yours sincerely? We listened to our wicked mind rather than our innerself. The mind along with Intellect shooed us away from doing what we liked to do. Had we listened to our innerself and acted accordingly lots of souls would have been leading better lives. Very often I had heard the answer” am doing this job good and am happy with this” followed by a sad sigh.Meaning they are actually not happy with their career, life...

I had asked some of them “Well you are doing something that you doesn’t like from inside. Would you allow your sons , daughters follow their dreams?” They will think for a while and say

“No. We don’t want our sons or daughters go after their dreams”.

“Why?”

“Its risky. Even though we are not happy with our lives at least we are taking home fat salaries. Similarly if they take the PRACTICAL way and do some Professional course they can also lead richer lives, monetarily.”

So again am confused. What is the goal of our lives? Making money? doing what we feel good to do? or making money doing what we feel to do?

My Xanthippe has a dream, she wants to make lots of money first and dedicate live for doing charity. “Why you want to make money first?”

“It will ensure our future.”

“But by the time we make enough money if we two become old and is not able to actively do what we wanted to do?” I looked at her curiously posing this question. She had no answer.

Life is short and uncertain. Nobody knows what will happen the next moment. You might die, you might get imprisoned, you might get paralyzed also. What is point in thinking I should have lead my life meaningfully and to the fullest when you are about to die or you are lying in your bed paralysed. Do what ever you wants do NOW. Because there is no tomorrow. You dedicate every minute, every second to your passion. Let you be in any job draw a parallel line and give atleast half of your time for what you love to do. Life is not for one who regret and keeps sighing. If you regret or remorse for the days lost even a single time in your life, you are the biggest loser . Live happily, even if you have to die next moment die happy. Make everyone around you happy. That’s how you can make your life meaningful.